Long hair or not? Tall, dark-haired, brown eyes or shorter, blond and green eyes? What do you look like? Do girls like you?

You’re never completely satisfied with your success as a man, so if you wish to attract more girls you need to be careful with what shoes you wear.

How come?

Well, it’s said that shoes define a man more than any other clothing item. And if girls look at your shoes … what will they see?

“Clean shoes” reveal that you take care of yourself and girls like men who wash themselves often, smell good, take care of their face and hair, go to the gym to have a nice body.

“Well-chosen shoes” - depending on the occasion and place (lacquer shoes or sport shoes, slippers or boots) this shows how well anchored you are in the everyday life, how much control you have over the context and how you adapt to it. If you pretend to be a tough guy when she wants a sensitive one and if you get scared when you need to show strength, it means you didn’t choose your shoes carefully. The same if you are noisy at a classical concert or silent in the park with friends. You didn’t choose the right shoes.

“Both shoes in the same direction” means that you know what you want from life. It’s not like today you start attending college, in spring you start a business, in the summer you make your plan to work abroad and in autumn you rethink everything. Just sit a moment, observe the surroundings, ask, decide and follow one path, with both your legs, not limping, not one-step forward, two backward.

“Shoes with tied laces” are the ones which catch others’ admiration. Shoes with untied laces say that you don’t pay attention to details. And girls like details: we like gifts, flowers, love messages, surprises. And we like boys paying attention to all these.

Girls like boys who, when taking off their shoes, they put “them in their place”. Shoes thrown in the lobby, messy and dirty say that you don’t know how to order your priorities. Girls don’t like boys who, during exams, go from party to party, nor those who, when meeting their friends only speak about football and women, nor those who, in order to seem popular, brag about illegal acts. Girls like boys who know what is important in their lives and whose purpose is to bring value to it, not only to have fun where they are.

Girls like boys with “mended shoes” or those who choose mending their shoes when they get broken. That means they also mend broken relationships with those around them. Girls like boys who know how to ask for forgiveness, those who do not end relationships by running away, those who are respectful with the people around them, who care about people, don’t insult people, don’t underestimate others. Girls will always admire a boy who knows how to fix his mistakes and does not throw away what he’s invested in time, energy, and feelings.  

“Shoes” are just a metaphor, but remember this, when you ask yourself why a girl doesn’t like you or why she doesn’t speak to you when you approach her. Pay attention to your “shoes”! Girls do too…

Finally, remember Ellen White’s recommendation: “The greatest want of the world is the want of men—men who will not be bought or sold, men who in their inmost souls are true and honest, men who do not fear to call sin by its right name, men whose conscience is as true to duty as the needle to the pole, men who will stand for the right though the heavens fall”.