Three things to look for in your partner

What if I told you I could help you find the right person?

What if I explained to you that this "person" is the most important being you will ever encounter and the one that will change your life completely?

Maybe you would take a few moments to listen to me, right? Even if you don’t really believe me, you’d probably want to hear more about it.

Deep inside, we all yearn to find someone to love. A person to spend the rest of our life with, a person who will change us, and make our days brighter. Every day I hear a lot of people looking for this kind of love. People willing to make any sacrifice to find such a love.

But what if I told you the only way you could find the right person is to stop searching and look at yourself? What if I told you that before you take steps to find that right person you first have to become the right person yourself?

It may seem an easy task, but it’s not. Sometimes being the right person may be more difficult than finding such a person. It’s easier to look at others than to examine yourself. It’s easier to focus on finding the ideal partner than to make the effort to become one. But being the right person is exactly what you need in order to find true love.

Sometimes we can get caught up in the search for a great love that we forget ourselves. The most successful relationships are built by two people who know who they are and have become their best version, with the help of God. So maybe it's time to stop your search and invest some time in becoming the right person. Here's how:

1. You must know who you are

There is a big difference between who you want to be, who you've been told to be, and who you really are. It is very easy to lose yourself in the relationship or to become what others expect you to be. But you will never know what you really want from a relationship until you know who you are. Use this time of your life to become your best version, confronting your habits, thoughts and actions that now prevent you from living the best version of your life. Invest in yourself, love and believe in yourself. Because you will always attract the kind of person you think you deserve.

2. You must know where you came from

We all have our personal burdens. And whether we want it or not, we carry this baggage in our relationships. Becoming the right person means taking time for the wounds of the past to heal. It means understanding our past and the impact it has had upon our life. Moreover, it means learning to accept the past.

3. You must know where you’re heading

When you’re heading towards a goal, you are able to recognize those who are in the same direction as you. To become that person means to remain authentic to yourself, to follow the special call that God put into your life in a unique and meaningful way. Your story has more to do with finding your purpose in life than finding your true love. Dream big and run confidently towards God’s plan for you. If you find someone who can keep up with you, then marry them!

No matter the status of your relationship, you are always invited to take steps towards healing, following God's advice. Try to focus on completing your part of the story and be convinced that God will take care of the rest!

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April 20, 2022 17:05 FAITH KILELA
I praise God for this powerful message that has indeed turned my attitude of love. I feel an inspiration to take a new turn for my life and relationships.
September 13, 2021 07:45 Marcus
A very clear article that tells us how important it is to find ourselves first. Not only the "best version" of ourselves but at least to be on the path of becoming the one's we are looking for is looking for.
April 24, 2020 03:39 Jonathan Alphonse
Although this above piece was brief I am inspired by the idea which is discussed. I believe I have been one searching for true love in the wrong places with the wrong concepts. Thank you for reminding me and praise God for this encouraging message. Please count me in on the messages and please do email me on the above email address with more encouraging messages. God bless
April 24, 2020 02:00 Lucy Ambu
I agreed on that. Please do send me off these quotes
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